Archive for month: December, 2020

How to cultivate a sense of unconditional self-worth

I have struggled with feelings of unworthiness for as long as I can remember. From the outside, my life looked pretty perfect when I was growing up. My parents had a happy marriage, they were supportive and they earned enough [...]

The secret to giving a great compliment

Want an easy way to brighten another person’s day? Offer them specific, heartfelt praise, says educator Cheryl Ferguson. We’ve all been on the receiving end of a half-hearted compliment, whether it was a generic “nice work” from a colleague or [...]

How to raise financially responsible kids

Teaching them about spending and saving is good, but our lessons need to go beyond that, says financial planner Ellen Rogin. Anyone who’s ever heard a child say a very grown-up word they definitely didn’t learn in the classroom knows [...]

How to deliver an authentic apology

A simple framework for delivering a short, sincere “I’m sorry,” from criminal defense attorney Jahan Kalantar. Quick question: What’s the worst part of apologizing? A) Working up the courage to admit we were wrong. B) Standing in front of the [...]

How to make your small wins work for you

The internet has inflated people’s expectations about what success looks like — any achievement that doesn’t go viral can seem skimpy. By changing our perspective and appreciating human-size, human-scale achievements, we can move towards our goals, says educator Mehrnaz Bassiri. [...]

Dear Guy: “My friends and I bond by complaining, but it’s getting me down”

Welcome to “Dear Guy,” TED’s advice column from psychologist Guy Winch. Every month, he answers readers’ questions about life, love and what matters most. Please send them to dearguy@ted.com; to read his previous columns, go here. Dear Guy:  By starting to [...]

Some advice on coming out

“In a perfect world, I believe that members of the LGBT community shouldn’t have to come out,” says New York high school student Amanda Gundel in a 2018 TEDx talk. “We should all be able to co-exist in our little bubbles and go [...]