Archive for month: March, 2020

3 ways to be your best self in your relationship

“Resentment is a relationship killer,” says psychotherapist and couples counselor Susan Adler. If we want happier relationships, we need to drop the blame, own our mistakes, and act in ways that increase connection, not conflict. “So many relationship problems actually [...]

There are three sides to every argument

We can all play a role in helping defuse even the most bitter conflicts. Veteran negotiator William Ury shares his hard-won insights. My passion in life is helping people and societies to move from no to yes. As a negotiator, [...]

Are you lonely in your partnership or marriage?

Most relationships in which loneliness has taken up residence can be shifted to a better daily reality, says marriage researcher Carol Bruess. All it takes some patience and effort. About my soaring, loving marriage of 28 years, people frequently say: [...]

3 steps to having difficult conversations

What’s your elephant in the room? Every group — whether it’s a family or a team in the workplace — has one: an uncomfortable, complicated or charged conversation that hasn’t happened but needs to. Maybe it’s about salary, taking someone’s [...]

How to explain anything to anyone: 4 steps to clearer communication

“Have you ever had this experience?” asks physicist Dominic Walliman in a TEDxEastVan Talk. “You’re having a chat with someone, and they’re telling you something about a subject they’re very interested in or they know a lot about, and you’re following along. Then, at [...]

6 techniques for clear and compelling speech

Politicians and other public figures deploy particular rhetorical devices to communicate their ideas and to convince people, and it’s time that we all learned how to use them, says speechwriter Simon Lancaster. There is a secret language of leadership — [...]

Which of these habits is keeping you from being a great communicator?

Over the years, Julian Treasure has identified a set of common emotional drivers that suck the power out of communication. He calls these the four leeches. “Most people — me included! — have most, or all, of them in some form,” [...]