Archive for month: October, 2020

Dear Guy: “My friends and I bond by complaining, but it’s getting me down”

Welcome to “Dear Guy,” TED’s advice column from psychologist Guy Winch. Every month, he answers readers’ questions about life, love and what matters most. Please send them to dearguy@ted.com; to read his previous columns, go here. Dear Guy:  By starting to [...]

Do you take things personally? Here’s how to stop

Let’s say I’m trying to find a specific location so I’m driving really slowly. The person in the car behind me starts honking and flashing their headlights at me. How do I respond? I take it personally. I know I shouldn’t. [...]

How to keep quarantine from ruining your relationship

Within hours, I was getting texts. And FB messages. And then a call from a quasi-terrified sounding former student: “Any articles or books you can suggest about how my spouse and I spend the next many weeks together in our tiny [...]

School may be suspended, but sleep schedules shouldn’t be

These days, the school bell isn’t ringing for most of our kids, and it’s up to parents to ensure that children and teens get the sleep that they need during these stressful and uncertain times. In the time before the [...]

Dear Guy: “I’m incredibly anxious about coronavirus. What can I do?”

Welcome to “Dear Guy,” TED’s advice column from NYC psychologist Guy Winch. Twice a month, he’ll answer your questions about life — about your relationships, your job, your family, your passions, fears, and more. Please send your questions to dearguy@ted.com; [...]

Disasters and crises bring out the best in us

Disasters and crises bring out the best in us. This simple fact is confirmed by more solid evidence than almost any other scientific insight, but we often forget. Now more than ever, in the middle of a pandemic, it’s crucial to [...]

3 ways to be your best self in your relationship

“Resentment is a relationship killer,” says psychotherapist and couples counselor Susan Adler. If we want happier relationships, we need to drop the blame, own our mistakes, and act in ways that increase connection, not conflict. “So many relationship problems actually [...]