Archive for month: March, 2020

Dear Guy: “I’m incredibly anxious about coronavirus. What can I do?”

Welcome to “Dear Guy,” TED’s advice column from NYC psychologist Guy Winch. Twice a month, he’ll answer your questions about life — about your relationships, your job, your family, your passions, fears, and more. Please send your questions to dearguy@ted.com; [...]

Disasters and crises bring out the best in us

Disasters and crises bring out the best in us. This simple fact is confirmed by more solid evidence than almost any other scientific insight, but we often forget. Now more than ever, in the middle of a pandemic, it’s crucial to [...]

3 ways to be your best self in your relationship

“Resentment is a relationship killer,” says psychotherapist and couples counselor Susan Adler. If we want happier relationships, we need to drop the blame, own our mistakes, and act in ways that increase connection, not conflict. “So many relationship problems actually [...]

How to be kinder to yourself

People who have greater levels of self-compassion tend to be more motivated, less lazy, and more successful over time. But just as important, they like themselves even when they fall short. Psychologist Susan David explains how you can cultivate this [...]

There are three sides to every argument

We can all play a role in helping defuse even the most bitter conflicts. Veteran negotiator William Ury shares his hard-won insights. My passion in life is helping people and societies to move from no to yes. As a negotiator, [...]

Are you lonely in your partnership or marriage?

Most relationships in which loneliness has taken up residence can be shifted to a better daily reality, says marriage researcher Carol Bruess. All it takes some patience and effort. About my soaring, loving marriage of 28 years, people frequently say: [...]

3 steps to having difficult conversations

What’s your elephant in the room? Every group — whether it’s a family or a team in the workplace — has one: an uncomfortable, complicated or charged conversation that hasn’t happened but needs to. Maybe it’s about salary, taking someone’s [...]