Archive for month: December, 2020

The secret to giving a great compliment

Want an easy way to brighten another person’s day? Offer them specific, heartfelt praise, says educator Cheryl Ferguson. We’ve all been on the receiving end of a half-hearted compliment, whether it was a generic “nice work” from a colleague or [...]

How to deliver an authentic apology

A simple framework for delivering a short, sincere “I’m sorry,” from criminal defense attorney Jahan Kalantar. Quick question: What’s the worst part of apologizing? A) Working up the courage to admit we were wrong. B) Standing in front of the [...]

Some advice on coming out

“In a perfect world, I believe that members of the LGBT community shouldn’t have to come out,” says New York high school student Amanda Gundel in a 2018 TEDx talk. “We should all be able to co-exist in our little bubbles and go [...]

Do you take things personally? Here’s how to stop

Let’s say I’m trying to find a specific location so I’m driving really slowly. The person in the car behind me starts honking and flashing their headlights at me. How do I respond? I take it personally. I know I shouldn’t. [...]

How to tame your inner advice monster

All of you know your advice monster. Somebody starts telling you about something. Even though you don’t really know the situation or the people involved and you certainly don’t have the full context, after about 10 seconds your advice monster [...]

How to keep quarantine from ruining your relationship

Within hours, I was getting texts. And FB messages. And then a call from a quasi-terrified sounding former student: “Any articles or books you can suggest about how my spouse and I spend the next many weeks together in our tiny [...]

3 ways to be your best self in your relationship

“Resentment is a relationship killer,” says psychotherapist and couples counselor Susan Adler. If we want happier relationships, we need to drop the blame, own our mistakes, and act in ways that increase connection, not conflict. “So many relationship problems actually [...]