Archive for month: October, 2020

Some advice on coming out

“In a perfect world, I believe that members of the LGBT community shouldn’t have to come out,” says New York high school student Amanda Gundel in a 2018 TEDx talk. “We should all be able to co-exist in our little bubbles and go [...]

Do you take things personally? Here’s how to stop

Let’s say I’m trying to find a specific location so I’m driving really slowly. The person in the car behind me starts honking and flashing their headlights at me. How do I respond? I take it personally. I know I shouldn’t. [...]

How to tame your inner advice monster

All of you know your advice monster. Somebody starts telling you about something. Even though you don’t really know the situation or the people involved and you certainly don’t have the full context, after about 10 seconds your advice monster [...]

How to keep quarantine from ruining your relationship

Within hours, I was getting texts. And FB messages. And then a call from a quasi-terrified sounding former student: “Any articles or books you can suggest about how my spouse and I spend the next many weeks together in our tiny [...]

3 ways to be your best self in your relationship

“Resentment is a relationship killer,” says psychotherapist and couples counselor Susan Adler. If we want happier relationships, we need to drop the blame, own our mistakes, and act in ways that increase connection, not conflict. “So many relationship problems actually [...]

Are you lonely in your partnership or marriage?

Most relationships in which loneliness has taken up residence can be shifted to a better daily reality, says marriage researcher Carol Bruess. All it takes some patience and effort. About my soaring, loving marriage of 28 years, people frequently say: [...]

3 steps to having difficult conversations

What’s your elephant in the room? Every group — whether it’s a family or a team in the workplace — has one: an uncomfortable, complicated or charged conversation that hasn’t happened but needs to. Maybe it’s about salary, taking someone’s [...]