Archive for month: July, 2020

How to tame your inner advice monster

All of you know your advice monster. Somebody starts telling you about something. Even though you don’t really know the situation or the people involved and you certainly don’t have the full context, after about 10 seconds your advice monster [...]

How to keep quarantine from ruining your relationship

Within hours, I was getting texts. And FB messages. And then a call from a quasi-terrified sounding former student: “Any articles or books you can suggest about how my spouse and I spend the next many weeks together in our tiny [...]

3 ways to be your best self in your relationship

“Resentment is a relationship killer,” says psychotherapist and couples counselor Susan Adler. If we want happier relationships, we need to drop the blame, own our mistakes, and act in ways that increase connection, not conflict. “So many relationship problems actually [...]

Are you lonely in your partnership or marriage?

Most relationships in which loneliness has taken up residence can be shifted to a better daily reality, says marriage researcher Carol Bruess. All it takes some patience and effort. About my soaring, loving marriage of 28 years, people frequently say: [...]

3 steps to having difficult conversations

What’s your elephant in the room? Every group — whether it’s a family or a team in the workplace — has one: an uncomfortable, complicated or charged conversation that hasn’t happened but needs to. Maybe it’s about salary, taking someone’s [...]

The 3 core skills for healthy romantic relationships

It’s never too late — or too early — to learn the abilities that make up romantic competence: insight, mutuality and emotional regulation. And when you possess these skills, all of the relationships in your life will benefit, says psychologist [...]

Get closer to the people in your life— by being the best mess possible

It’s time to give up on chasing perfection and embrace our uniquely individual quirks and imperfections, says author Chidera Eggerue. We humans are pretty excellent at telling other people what to do — but not so excellent at following our [...]