Archive for month: July, 2020

How to tame your inner advice monster

All of you know your advice monster. Somebody starts telling you about something. Even though you don’t really know the situation or the people involved and you certainly don’t have the full context, after about 10 seconds your advice monster [...]

Students’ poetry offers beautiful and surprising perspective on pandemic

When educator Kim Preshoff asked the students in her environmental science classes to create blackout poetry for Earth Day, she was expecting some nature-inspired poems and thoughts on the state of our planet. What she got back were profound and [...]

We all make snap judgments about each other— here’s how to stop

Taking a moment to pause and really look at the other person can help us all avoid embarrassment and hurt feelings, says youth empowerment activist Quita Christison. When was the last time you came to a quick conclusion about someone, [...]

3 ways to be your best self in your relationship

“Resentment is a relationship killer,” says psychotherapist and couples counselor Susan Adler. If we want happier relationships, we need to drop the blame, own our mistakes, and act in ways that increase connection, not conflict. “So many relationship problems actually [...]

There are three sides to every argument

We can all play a role in helping defuse even the most bitter conflicts. Veteran negotiator William Ury shares his hard-won insights. My passion in life is helping people and societies to move from no to yes. As a negotiator, [...]

Are you lonely in your partnership or marriage?

Most relationships in which loneliness has taken up residence can be shifted to a better daily reality, says marriage researcher Carol Bruess. All it takes some patience and effort. About my soaring, loving marriage of 28 years, people frequently say: [...]

3 steps to having difficult conversations

What’s your elephant in the room? Every group — whether it’s a family or a team in the workplace — has one: an uncomfortable, complicated or charged conversation that hasn’t happened but needs to. Maybe it’s about salary, taking someone’s [...]